Asklemmy

Keeping in touch with people. I have no idea what causes it but people just stop talking to me. I've lost touch with so many friends and family members over the years that in a lot of ways its just not worth the effort to make new ones. Which gets pretty lonely but I don't see an alternative.

I realize that part of it is my fault as I'm not the best at keeping up with people either, but I at least make the effort with the few friends and family I'm trying to keep so I don't lose absolutely everyone. The only exception is work colleagues and my mother who I have a strained relationship with.

I'm sure the work colleagues will fade if I ever leave the company, as has happened every single time before. I'm sure you can guess why my relationship with my mother isn't something I necessarily want to improve.

I've received multiple reasons that people never message, usually some variant of forgetting to respond due to being too busy. But what's especially frustrating are the people that say, I think of you often and things of that nature, but that never seems to translate into, "let's see how they're doing by reaching out". Adding to this is how I've never had much luck making friends so it's not like I've ever had a large pool to draw from.