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[–] [email protected] 53 points 5 days ago (1 children)

The last time I was a team lead, I would sit in on meetings and whenever this one admin assistant was present she would complain about an analyst's appearance saying things like he looked disheveled because his shirt had some wrinkles; but he was very much silicon-valley/california-shabby-chic fashioned for the time.

We got bought out by a bank complete with stereotypical old fashioned management and dinosaur sensibilities from the East Coast. She brought up the analyst again during one of our meetings that included the new management and the analyst was fired the next day.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 5 days ago (3 children)

Eastern and Western US work ideals clash all the time. I’m in CO and we are definitely a we work to play state not we live to work and I haven’t seen an actual suit worn by anyone other than a lawyer around here, even at church. As soon as someone from the east coast shows up it’s painfully obvious. We don’t have much tolerance for their go, go, go ways and usually show them a great time and a relaxed vibe to relax them a bit. They’re always perplexed at how we can perform so well with such a relaxed attitude. Doesn’t usually click that it’s correlated.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Also Colorado. Granted, covid didn't give me much opportunity here but I wore a suit this summer for the first time in about 5 years. It was a wedding and I was the officiant 🙃

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Oh I’m sorry, weddings and prom are still very formal, true. But a lot are western wear these days. Good point.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 days ago

Oh no, I wasn't trying to disprove your point at all! Just showing how extreme the situation needs to be to justify a suit. From what I remember most of the guests didn't wear a suit either, but I can totally see it being a thing on the east coast.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

Wait... People don't have a work-to-live attitude in CO? I live in NC where everyone works their lives away. Are you telling me I can move, even within the US, and that's not the case? I know NC is terrible for workers, but if it's that much of a discrepancy then I would pack and go elsewhere asap.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago

First thing I got told when I moved from NoVA to CO as a manager was people work to play. That has proven true time and time again. Snows a lot, everyone calls out and hits the slopes. Gorgeous day and they’ve just recently stocked a favorite fishing spot? Calls out to fish. Hunting season and got one of the lottery elk tags? Puts vacation in or unpaid time off since they’re extremely hard to get and goes off trying to bag and elk ok the western slope. Recently upgraded your Jeep? They’re definitely taking it off road on a mountain trail stat. Yeah, we have a ton of fun out here.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

colorado felt like another silicon-valley-ish niche to me so this makes sense, but i'm surprised to hear about the work perspective because the people i worked with in colorado tended to have more socially conservative views than my californian colleagues complete w an early-to-bed-early-to-rise work ethic.

the denver-boulder area, in person, is hard to distinguish from places like austin if not for the climate and geography; the general attitudes of strangers towards me made that place no different than anywhere in texas for me.