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I am approaching 40, and I still don't want any, but i am deeply lonely and depressed as friendships are fading out of my life due to their children and my constant movement and disinterest.
i have no plan for the end of my life. since I won't be able to do much at that time anyway, I'm not sure that it matters. I'm willing to suffer through it and possibly kill myself if it means that im able to live my best years with the most freedom.
I'm a similar age, and similar point in life. I like kids, but I really don't want to have any of my own. I really enjoy being an uncle to many children, though- not related, just made it clear to my friends that I would love to keep my connection with them, and build a connection with their child.
People don't want to impose their child on others, but if you have a genuine conversation with them about being ok with kids, you'll get to see your friends more often, and if you're into it, they'll fucking live and appreciate the free babysitting.
Iβm hoping that assisted suicide will be a thing, but I have come up with a contingency plan if itβs not. The worst thing I can imagine is being stuck in a nursing home and not knowing whatβs going on or be unable to do things for myself.
Not sure where you are but some US states already have laws in place for "death with dignity." And of course some European countries too.
agreed. confusion and dementia would be my worst hell. i would need to get things in order before i lose control, if it lookes like things would go that way. i have no intention of living like that on purpose.
I relate to this 100%