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Not trying to give relationship advice, but have you considered that your 1st criterias should be "has hobbys/interests and their shit somewhat together"? with the full-time job criteria, you could ironically filter out a perfect fit and end up with the same kind of person again, without realizing it.
I'll take it into consideration but like I've said I've dated a few people and some of those people have had hobbies and their shit together for the most part but the ones that did not have a full-time job to support their hobbies on top of that have always been concerningly quick to start relying on me to financially support their hobbies, which is its own issue.
I think if I were to bend that rule again that person's hobbies would have to be closely interlinked with my hobbies so that the financial requirements would not increase.