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[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

This meme is just perpetuating two harmful ideas:

Reinforcing the expectation that black men have huge dongers
That donger size matters and is a measure of self worth

You'll notice that whilst point 2 affects all men, point 1 is more harmful to black men, as they hold their body to a higher unrealistic standard. Plus it's part of the creepy fetishization of "exotic" people.

Tying people disliking these concepts to them being "pale" is just kinda weird, dismissive, and frankly plain racist.

I'm not personally offended by the post, and haven't downvoted it, I just hate seeing the closed minded and unempathetic mindset that your comment demonstrates

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I fully agree (maybe with a nitpick re: “matter” from #2 just to leave room for everyone’s preference) but honestly I still have soft spot for duck jokes as an old tradition of lowbrow humor, especially the euphemistic/wordplay kind lol

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

Totally, I don't want to get into the nuances of penis size preferences, as the vast majority of people are happy with any donger (barring medical conditions), but of course, as you've said, there are outliers.

It just upsets me to watch men obsess about penis size, so I probably came across too strongly, sorry about that 😅

I also have no problem with humour, I try to avoid it as I see it as body shaming, but I'm not gonna be a party pooper

[–] [email protected] -1 points 2 months ago

Oh yeah no I’m with you, full agreement. It’s silly to associate people’s PP size with anything, and tying it to self worth or ridiculing others for theirs is harmful, as is fetishizing groups of people for anything.

I meant nitpick as in just a slightly more flexible word choice, if for no other reason than young people are on the lookout for little white lies and it’s best to be frank.

Yeah and I’m generally against body shaming too, unless we’re talking hand or crowd sizes.