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[–] [email protected] 207 points 5 months ago (5 children)

The interview is a vibe check first and foremost. If you vibe with the team we will overlook other things in your application. If you made it to interview, we already think you're good enough so don't stress trying to impress or apologize.

Managers are mostly people who get tired of watching other people do things badly and decide to try to do better. You don't need a special degree or any magic to be a good manager, you should like people though.

Everyone is faking it to some degree.

[–] [email protected] 69 points 5 months ago (2 children)

The β€žyou have to like peopleβ€œ part took me nearly 20 years to figure out. I hate people in general with possible remedy for people who are nice. Iβ€˜m exceptional at managing people, I just dont vibe with them. This leads to absurd situations where everyone is happy, professionally but folks just hate my guts.

So, I now work alone and am happy with it. :)

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

As a fellow non people person, god I wish I was part of your team!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago

God I wish I was part of your team

As a fellow non people person

Press X to doubt.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago (1 children)

If people hate your guts chances are you're not a good manager.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

I actually am genuinely interested in that fellow's reasoning behind believing both that his job of managing people is successful, and also that all the people he managed do not like being managed by him.

Anecdotally, I have encountered workplaces containing a manager or employee that was universally disliked, and it was never because they were doing an awesome job. They did appear to think that people disliked them personally but benefited from their results. Often they seem to also believe those results would be unachievable in ways that do not produce the distaste. I am not sure these contradictions are entirely defensible.

[–] [email protected] 32 points 5 months ago (1 children)

people are generally ok. put them in a situation where they can climb over other people to advance and watch the rot begin.

so, while people are generally ok, corporate people are generally not.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Or any business, not even corporate.

You see the same crap in SMB.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Small/Medium-sized Business

[–] [email protected] 19 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Personality, presence and confidence

Natural self confidence, but NOT an arrogant selfish confidence.

Some people naturally have confidence and presence and some people need to build it as a skill.

I know guys and gals with little to no knowledge or skill build up careers because they just knew how to talk and connect to people.

I also know guys and gals with years of education and degrees but have little to no way of politely or easily getting along with people.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 5 months ago

Everyone is faking it to some degree.

Most valuable lesson I was ever forced to learn.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 months ago

Can confirm with a very condensed anecdote: I once applied for a job that required engineering degree in electronics or mechanics. I'm a hischool dropout. Interview went well, and I got a job offer a month later. I got the impression that they were more interested in the right type of person with relevant hands-on experience, and in my case that experience meant IT/Linux (I was always a hobbyist geek)and being used to operating heavy machinery (Grew up on a farm).

I'm still in the same industry, and I earn more than my friends with masters degrees.