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I hear ya, but I don't mind - it's a discussion thread, after all! - and it's interesting to see a different perspective than my own.
That's very generous of you. In my experience, the perspective I replied to is the one that is most prevalent and you can't mention being happy without kids without somebody chiming in to say or imply how happy you would be if you had them. It gets really old.
Understood, that used to bother me too. After a while people realized I was firm and laid off. Other than a few occasional passive-aggressive comments from my mom about how she doesn't have grandchildren, nobody really says anything anymore.
Edit: whoops, that posted 3 times!
Thanks for being open. as i mentioned there is no right or wrong choice, just different
You got it, I'm a very firm believer in 'different strokes for different folks'!
As an unrelated side note: One thing that has been interesting is watching genes play out. My daughter smirks like her grandfather, and she has had maybe 5 days exposure to him in her lifetime. And my youngest rubs his feet together when stressed, like a self soothing routine, something his great-grandfather used to do, but he died before my son was born. We like to think we are all about choices and choose to be unique, But some invisible biology still controls things.
That's so funny, what a specific behavior! I really do wonder to what degree we're all just automatons behaving on the whims of our genes.