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How to get over not having a good college experience? (slrpnk.net)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I'm going into my last year of college and I kinda felt like I did college wrong. Like, my grades are good but everything else about college I failed at. Like socially and stuff, after 4 years I barely know anybody. I commuted(to avoid debt, and did so successfully) so maybe that's part of my problem.

But I feel college was supposed to be special time in your life and to me it has been indifferent. :/Thoughts?

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

My college experience was similar. It ultimately led nowhere for me. I don't have a single contact anymore from my college. I don't work in the field my degree was in. It really only served to show me what I didn't want in life in retrospect. While I still had some fun and enriching experiences, college was only the reason I was where those took place. I graduated almost 10 years ago. College was basically the next highschool for me which I look back and think was a waste of time. 10 years on, I barely remember anything I learned.

Life gets better after college. Don't worry about it. Cheers pal.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

I did something similar to you and OP.

I commuted to university. I didn't even like my university and their teaching program was incredibly poor. Money was incredibly tight. I never fit into the culture. The whole thing was still an experience in finding myself. I found I didn't like cliques, didn't like drinking/partying culture and just wanted quiet and intimate friendships. And that's OK. University was full of difficulties and a poor experience for a lot of people. At least OP got through OK with good grades.

The good news for OP is that life gets better. Post-uni was the best time ever for me.....people around me were more grown up, I finally had money, working life was much better and I had freedom to pursue what I wanted. University sucked for me and I got over it quickly and life has been getting much better since. Just look forward to how awesome your life can be from here on.

I even went back to university for a postgraduate degree much later and had a much better academic experience. Also at that point I didn't care at all about getting into "student life" and just enjoyed studying.

Good luck OP.