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Recommended Reading
- The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, And Love by bell hooks
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I think this is the case for some women and isn't just a perception. There are surveys that are showing that single women are the happiest and most satisfied with their life while married women are the least. The old threat that you will die single and alone isn't working anymore. The helpless men (the ones who can't cook, can't clean, can't support emotionally) used to skate by since women needed men. They don't anymore and they are scared.
It's sad because the expectations to be a "good" partner are so low for most men and most still don't meet it. Most women I know want someone with a job, whose clean and nice to them but can't find someone who fits all three.
As a demographic men need to step it up and as a society we failed them. It's so sad the number of men who can't cook a single meal or clean anything. These are important life skills that their mothers and fathers didn't prepare them for because of outdated gender roles. Mother's prepared their daughters for these changes but didn't their sons. That is the issue
Yeah a lot of my (happily single) female friends say they don't want a man-child to take care of, but a partner to be with. I think one of the failings of patriarchy is that men are taught that they will have a woman to do house stuff, but women, as it turns out, are just as uninterested in doing that as men are.
Bingo! Say it louder for the fellas in the back.
I sometimes frequent forums where women air their grievances, and so many of the complaints about men particularly are just sad as hell.
One I can recall from a month or two ago was a woman ranting about how she doesn't want to be expected to give blow jobs on her knees, and doesn't want to always do 4-5 positions during intercourse with the strange men she's dating. She says "what's wrong with missionary anyway?" And "all I want is to be treated like a human being, not a throw away sex toy".
Women as a group literally could not make it any easier for men today, and still the throw away/instant gratification/porn culture of it all just persists in many young women's lives, thanks to exactly what you said... Society let men down, and has to do better to change it.
It's the old sad boomer joke that the mothers least favorite child is their husband
This is mostly wrong. While there are many men child, many aren't. But 1) many women are actually conservative (probably about 30%) and 2) even if they aren't, you don't pickup women just by being nice, it takes social skills that you probably don't know you innately have, but many men don't.
Maybe? Big difference between "a lot of women" and "for some woman". And even so, I don't buy that line of argument.
I take issue with the wording and that's why I doubt this is a truthful phenomenon:
What is a lot here? 10% of women? 1%? 80%? Does this come from a survey? This is being offered as an explanation, so I think it's important to not handwave this kind of qualitative analysis. If you're going to put some responsibility on women's attitudes, I think it warrants proper research.
Is it a decision? Do women get to decide the consequences of the behavior of men?
Okay. There are also surveys that say otherwise. And even if we're to believe that single women is the happiest cohort, can you establish a real link between that and more teens getting exposed to sexist ideology?
This all feels cheap philosophy and it's ridiculously close of shifting the blame of men's bad upbringing towards women being less accepting of garbage relationships. Maybe teenage men getting out of high school talking shit about alpha/beta/sigma is the reason why single women is the happiest cohort, not the other way around.