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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I never had the chance to gain friends in my formative years; I grew up in neighborhoods filled with what were apparently now proto-fascists - this community would recognize the toxic masculinity. They all hated me simply because my family was poor, or because I moved in from somewhere else. They were never clear on why. All I know is that I am hated wherever I go, no matter how kind I am to others. There is no place for me on Earth - not even the option to move far away, because the part of people that hates the "other" is universal.

I hope you find people like yourself.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (2 children)

More now than ever, you find people that are takers and not givers. I was raised that if you were kind and generous, that you would attract others. But when everyone takes what you give, but gives nothing in return, you burn out and feel used. Once you have nothing left to give, they go away.

You’re only welcome if you have something to offer. If you have nothing, you are nothing in their eyes. Hi lighting the differences between us all is a worrying trend.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

This was true almost fifty years ago, when i was a child - and even the adults had no problem with taking from a child everything they wanted. They were soulless and amoral, like looking into the eyes of a shark.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I did have a lot more friends when I had a lot more money.