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Good. It's what he deserves. I was 9 or 10 when that happened and I remember thinking it was so gross and being confused why people were just like...cool with it? I'm glad people are calling him out now - better late than never, I guess.
Boomers have a much higher tolerance of SA and grooming. Look at how it's just accepted that Rock Stars could have underaged... pursuits.
I know this won't be popular, but it's for a few reasons:
I speak strongly about this because I think we are doing great damage to mental health to repeatedly claim it's a mental disorder to have a completely normal and common biological attraction.
But don't get me wrong, I 100% support protecting minors from predators. I agree these laws should exist, I just wish people would stop pretending that there is something wrong with the attraction itself.
I don't really have an issue with a 16 year old dating an 18 year old. They're close enough that the age thing wouldn't be an issue, but 17 and 38 is a bit different.
I also don't really have an issue with adults being attracted to... people below the legal limit so long as they don't act on it. It's very difficult to have this discussion when most people can't grasp that desires don't always lead to actions and have problems separating fiction from reality. There are people with rape fetishes that find healthy, consensual ways to simulate the act, something that the mainstream can't really cope with.
But that's not really the discussion we're having. Jerry Seinfeld had a teenaged girlfriend when he was 38. Celebrities using their positions of power isn't acceptable.
You're telling on yourself quite a bit here. Your mental health doesn't have to suffer if you find a "biologically mature" woman attractive but after a certain age if you're seeing a "hot woman" and not "a young girl" there definitely is some deviation from the norm.
We're talking about sexual attraction to children that don't know how to file their taxes and are just learning what it means to be an adult. If your sexual attraction to someone is purely physical and not affected by your rational mind telling you that they're a kid then there really is a bit of a disconnect there.
Maybe you're closer in age to them than I am, there's certainly a range of "adult ages" where people are still developing mentally, but when you're old enough that you're finding a woman SEXUALLY attractive who is the age of your daughter or your friends' daughters that's a red flag and worth some introspection.
I'm perfectly comfortable with who I am attracted to. Don't worry about my mental health. There is no telling on myself, I'm 100% open about it.
I just recognize that this is the same BS trauma that we've been inflicting on gay people by telling them that their perfectly normal and natural attraction is some kind of mental issue. Just like how I see through when someone claims gay people have a mental problem, I see through the implications that men being attracted to young women is indicative of some kind of mental issue.
We are talking about a young woman in her prime reproductive years. Objectively speaking, evolutionarily, it would make sense that men are attracted to this. In fact, I would argue that if you don't find them physically attractive, you are the one deviating from the norm. Now to be clear, don't confuse what I'm saying with emotional and intellectual attractiveness.
No we're not, we're talking about being attracted to women in their prime reproductive years. They are young and likely immature and we should have laws that protect them, but let's not conflate that with the physical attraction being a mental illness.
I'm probably as old or older than you. I've talked to people in their 40s who I find completely emotionally immature and intellectually unattractive, and I've talked to teenagers whom I've found to be mature and the conversation to be intellectually stimulating. Although the latter is few and far between, and getting further apart as I age.
Would I want to have a relationship with them? No. Would I want to have sex with them? Sure.
YIKES DAWG
Can't defend indefensible positions.
Is what you need to start telling yourself.
I'm literally defending my position, you and the other poster are just attacking my character.
It's fine, I get it. It's some of the same exact pushback I saw when I was arguing in favor of rights for homosexuals back during the rise of their widespread acceptance.
You're making the same arguments and even appealing to the same historic causes as pedophilia-acceptance advocates do.
Don't try to make your desire to have sex with teens a civil rights issue, it cheapens everything that LGBTQ+ people have suffered and fought for.
This is an empty ad hominem that I don't care about. I'm not arguing that pedophilia is normal, I'm pointing out that being attracted to young women is not pedophilia and should stop being labelled as such.
I view it as quite the opposite: by labelling a perfectly normal attraction as a mental disorder, you're guilty of the same puritanical nonsense that we have fought against for the past few decades.
I'm really not trying to engage here but if you're appealing to what makes biological sense then killing your sexual rivals and responding violently to aggression or stress are also perfectly normal and should be allowed by your reasoning.
You're jumping through a lot of hoops to justify sexual relationships between people of vast maturity level and power imbalances.
The defining feature of human civilization is that we move beyond biological impulses
I've been very clear and explicit that I believe the laws should exist. And yet you're still arguing that I'm saying that because it's natural, it should still be legal.
Sorry, but it's clear you aren't arguing in good faith or you've completely shut yourself down and are not open to reason, so I'll bow out.
Point is we treat those psychological violent urges and don't brush them off as natural. We teach people how to cope with them. We don't spend an awful lot of time justifying those impulses.
No, you revealed your character by doing a VERY bad job of defending your position. Such that you need to change your position.
Arguing for the rights of homosexuals has nothing in common from what you've said here.
Again, no argument.
girls enter puberty so much earlier than boys, their capable of reproduction anywhere from 10-12. When you talk about "prime reproductive years," know that it includes girls as young as 10. So... stop using that term. I am giving you the benefit of the doubt and inferring that you actually mean girls that are on the very cusp of womanhood, like, ages 17-19, but others may not.
Women are hot, girls are not. Some girls can appear to be older than they are, and it's confusing when confronted with a genuinely attractive woman that is not yet 18, because we're caught between the confusing notions of "I am attracted to this person" and "this person is not yet old enough to to be engaged with in a socially conscious manner." It's not wrong to find the person attractive, it IS wrong to engage with them in a manner reserved for those that are fully realized adults. For my purposes, I'm putting adulthood at around age 22-25, when your brain is pretty much fully developed.
So with that being said, No, Jerry Seinfeld didn't do a bad thing by thinking a 17 year old girl attractive, he DID do a bad thing by engaging with her as if she was a fully formed adult.
Prime reproductive years for women is generally late teens to late 20s. I'll keep using the term because I'm using it accurately, and it's exactly the whole point: biologically speaking why would it be surprising that some men would find a women who is prime for reproduction attractive? It just makes perfect sense.
It's only confusing to you because you've bought into the puritanical notion that there is something wrong with being attracted to young women; there's really nothing confusing about it: it's reasonable to find them physically attractive, but almost certainly inappropriate to engage in a relationship with them. This is the misconception I'm trying to dispell here.
I agree that at best he did a questionable thing. However I know nothing of her maturity at the time. As I've said elsewhere, I've met emotionally and intellectually immature 40 year olds (certainly plenty in their late 20s) and intellectually stimulating and mature 16 year olds. If it's legal, and she was mature, why would it be wrong? And would it be wrong if I had sex with "a fully formed adult" when she is emotionally immature? I get we need a rule to catch the vast majority of the cases, but from a moral stand point I can't say why it would be okay to have sex with an emotional immature adult, but not okay to have sex with an emotionally mature adult just because the latter is younger than the former.
Again, don't get me wrong, the vast majority of the time there is some taking advantage going on, and there should be laws to stop it. I'm not arguing against this.
One of the leading causes of death for teen girls aged 15-19 is complications from childbirth. Also infants born to teen mothers have increased risk of death and poorer health outcomes. One of the most common issues is obstructed labor, since their pelvises are too small to accomdate a baby.
Recent research has also found teen pregnancy is linked to premature death later in life.
The science doesn't agree that teen girls are in their prime reproductive years. I wish this idea would fade into the history books and live alongside the idea that women shouldnt ride trains because their uteruses would fly out.
Some links below for your convenience.
https://www.nicswell.co.uk/health-news/teenage-pregnancy-death-concern
https://www.nytimes.com/2024/03/14/health/teen-pregnancy-early-death.html
I put prime years at late teens to late 20s. This seems to confirm that, not contradict it.
The second link I cant see if or where they broke it out by age...only teen vs non-teen. I would be curious to see what would change if you moved the number to 17.
Here is more information that includes the ages 16-19. Having a child before the age of 20 increases risks of death, injury, or complications. Again, not prime reproductive years. Before the modern era women had kids young, but thats because EVERYONE had shorter live spans and death was common in general. Still doesn't add up to "teens are in their reproductbe prime."
I have a feeling no matter how many facts or how much data I present to refute your position you aren't going to be open to changing your mind. However, I'd like this information to be available to others who might find it insightful.
https://www.webmd.com/baby/teen-pregnancy-medical-risks-and-realities
That doesn't appear to separate out the ages, it just says it typically happens 15-19, but can be as low as 10.
Let's see if you're projecting:
"A woman's fertility peaks between her late teens to late-20s after which it starts to decline"
But that being said, you recognize that this was typical, which seems you should also recognize that this is what we evolved around. If women were reproducing at a young age, but were dying slightly more by their 30s, this wasn't creating downward evolutionary pressure.
A little off base, but, Many of my relatives came from families of 6-10 children. More often than not, mothers died in childbirth. Is this where we want society to return?
How did you possibly get yourself to this being a reasonable question?
Does it matter? When younger women are sexualized, they get pregnant.
Of course it matters because I certainly don't believe we should go back to that at all and I have no idea how you could had possibly gotten yourself there.
The best time to have a baby with the lowest risk is ages 20 - 26. That's the window with the best outcome. I love science, it's the best way to move towards better ideas and medical practices. That's why I care about dispelling the idea that teenagers are in their reproductive prime.
Also, this might be interesting to you. Women didn't marry young as frequently as we're told.
https://historymyths.wordpress.com/2014/07/06/myth-136-women-married-very-young-in-the-olden-days/
So not being open to changing your mind was a projection. I figured as much, its almost always people thinking they see themselves in other people when they make baseless accusations.
Yep. Picking the bear.
Imagine responding to an actual thought out, reasoned argument with some braindead thought terminating snark. Saves the effort of trying to actually engage in conversation or uncomfortable thoughts I guess but that's about it.
Still picking the bear. Your reply, and all the other salty misogynist replies are exactly why.
Ok, have fun I guess? Congratulations? Not sure what response you expect.
I didn't ask
Posting publicly on the internet means people can respond to you.
Responding to a relatively well-formed statement and rationalized statement with a 1 sentence meme-response is lazy and braindead and contributes nothing but go off if it makes you feel like you're doing something I guess. Certainly easier than actually engaging with a topic.
I am engaging, which is why I am picking the bear.
Hell, they wrote songs about it. "Jailbait" by Ted Nugent, "Seventeen" by Winger... I'm sure there are more.
You mean the Ted Nugent that had a 13yr old girl living in his house while writing jailbait?
Bro he's a pedophile, pointing to a pedophile and going look there it's normal is fucking crazy.