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[–] [email protected] -2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

I dont know what you think my goal is, clearly you're better at phrasing, so if we go with "You should be ashamed if you don't distance yourself from misogynists", where is our disagreement?

You think I shouldnt be ashamed of the friends I once had? Because I certainly am. You should be ashamed of people who break social contract, because that is explicitly what that would entail.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

You think I shouldnt be ashamed of the friends I once had? Because I certainly am.

Given that you said "once had" not "still have", no I don't think you should be ashamed. Having broken with them, having learned, what blame is there that could be laid on you?

[–] [email protected] -2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Because I was once naïve to who they are now, and perhaps being younger at the time I could have, maybe, been a more potent guiding voice to a couple guys in specific, and only later did I learn what they had committed when I was still associated. And if that shame is a way I can guarantee my merrits, then I can live with it.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago

Is that shame necessary to guarantee your merits, though?

If you can still learn from it, then it still has a purpose. If everything is learned, then it doesn't, and it is only hindering you. That call will be up to you, your understanding of the circumstances, and your conscience, but one thing is for sure: It makes no sense to worry about things that are outside of your control, and your past is very much among the things not in your control. So don't fret about letting it be nothing to you.