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"b-but bears are actually dangerous!" Shut the hell up.

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[–] [email protected] 29 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Downvoted not because it isn't true, but because they aren't automatically mutually exclusive and because it is an unnecessary jab at half of the human species. Why are we paying attention to divisive bullshit instead of focusing on things that actually have the potential to help?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago

What will help?

[–] [email protected] -5 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Because the solution to women getting assaulted is to make men think about their actions. The post wasn't anymore divisive than the average black twitter meme. It was a simple tongue in cheek piece about how women have the impossible task of figuring out if a man is going to be their life partner or their rapist & murderer.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 6 months ago

"Hey, would you rather be alone with a bear or a man?"
"A bear. And you should think about what you've done." "... Huh? "

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Imo this doesn't impact the men who would do such a thing in the slightest. You're just making the ones who have empathy feel bad, those who would rape are just getting their egos stoked by this fad: "Look at me, I'm more dangerous than a bear! That means I'm badass"

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago

The problem is a large portion of rape is not done by serial rapists who rapes every chance they get, it's done by average dudes once or twice when an opportunity arrives. Most rape cases involve someone known to the victim.

Rape culture (as awkward and taboo of a phrase as it as) is a real thing that this bear analogy is pointing to. You may not have anything to examine in yourself that is the result of that culture but a metric fuck-ton of men do have internalized rape cultural aspects that need to be examined and extracted. The fact that so many women picked the bear is a testament to how pervasive that culture is, at least in their eyes.

The point isn't to stoke the egos of the serial rapists with no empathy, it's to use empathy to make the "average-Joe" rapist examine his internal biases before they turn into an actual rape.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago (2 children)

to make men think about their actions

Do you not understand that, as a very straight man, I've never once even thought about hurting a woman?

It's absolutely divisive. Stop.

[–] [email protected] -3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

But have you thought about challenging a man who does?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Ah yes, let me open myself up to physical violence because I'm a man and that's my place in the world.

Shut the fuck up

[–] [email protected] -2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Are you aware that you get to make that choice and that women don't?

[–] [email protected] -1 points 6 months ago

Are you aware that, as a man, I still have the right to protect myself?

God, go fuck yourself you troglodyte.