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I hate to add to the negative responses here, but this was my experience. Due to really bad gender dysphoria, I felt I could not go, because I feel like breaking down every time I wear a suit. I skipped it altogether due to the quite restrictive (cis-normative) dress code. Going as a man with a woman would make me really sad. I went to quite a few parties after with cool people, though, and those were really fun, so I guess that's what counts.
It's alright, we understand, and I can actually relate to that. I wasn't very liked, so I ended up choosing my older brother (who himself is trans, female to male) as my prom companion since nobody in my class would go. I was happy at the idea of it being special for him, but we only got heckled because we were siblings (complicated by the fact I was a year older than the norm, being 18 instead of 17, which would've removed a negative connotation of going with an older brother over the age of 18 but would've made me a year older numerically than most prom-goers) combined with his status as someone who is trans. What was supposed to be fun ended up being cut short and we went home.
I bet it was still important as a gesture of solidarity, and it's also valid to go home if it's not worthwhile. Supportive people really inspire hope in me, and I think it's that way for a lot of other trans people, too :)
I volunteer for a nonprofit whose mission is trans empowerment. One of the things they do is host an inclusive prom for all the folks who shared your feelings on the matter. It is a really beautiful experience to witness.
That's wonderful! <3