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Dating apps are as if someone turned the job application experience into a pastime (lemmy.world)
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[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago (2 children)

I have been thinking about trying online dating again. Not really looking forward to it because I expect it to be a mess.

I think I'll try a very minimalist approach on my profile because most people read profiles looking for reasons to reject. If I don't give many possible reasons to reject then I should increase the pool of people to date. In theory, anyway.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 6 months ago (1 children)

please be careful dude, it's mega bad for your mental well being and especially your self worth

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Thanks. I've done it before and you are correct, there are some real assholes out there. I might get better results if I pony up some cash for a site or service.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Not to be overly pessimistic, but paying for dating apps doesn’t do much. Maybe you get a slight advantage, but don’t expect a huge difference.

The point about these dating apps is to make you desperate enough to pay. But once you pay they don’t want you to find someone and be done with it. No, they want to keep you in the app as long as possible, especially when you’ve proven you’re willing to pay.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago

Exactly this. Also it used to be that you would buy a subscription and that would increase the rate and quality of your matches. That's no longer the case. Now it's all transaction based. You have to pay for boosts, special swipes and shit to be seen.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

Interesting.

I was thinking along the lines of eharmony where (I think?) everyone pays to play. I understand the ploy you describe exists and I do want to avoid that shit.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Then you’ll be rejected for being too boring

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

Probably. Valid point.