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How do I help matchmake my colleagues? (monyet.cc)

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For context, my teammate (F, 31) is interested to get to know another colleague from a different team (M, 28). The guy is definitely single and doesn’t reject the idea of a relationship (got to know as another teammate helped to ask). FYI, the guy has an introverted personality.

I’m not sure how to help convey my teammate’s feelings to the guy (like help to set a meet up, ask if he’s interested etc), without making it feel awkward for the both of them, should the guy is not interested in my teammate. Any suggestions?

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I've heard the Japanese dating protocol is you get one of his friends to casually ask what he thinks of her. And then if the signals are positive, then you can make it known you've heard she might be interested in being asked out. Ideally this step is indirect too, because you get told not by your teammate, but by someone who is friends with your teammate. So everyone's "face" is always maintained.

Seems like way too many steps though. Maybe just tell him to do a little dance

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

This sounds practical! Thanks for the idea~