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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

I'm fairly new to all of this. I started questioning 3-4 weeks ago and feel like I'm kind of figuring some things out in my mind, but also like I'm at a roadblock or a fork in the road. I feel like to see where I need/want to go next, I need to explore, but I don't know how. I've heard about playing a game or whatever online and use a different identity, but it'd be hard to cram another game in enough for that to feel useful. I could try on some clothes, but that feels so limited in what it tells me. I'm sure it could be related to the fact that over time I have been convincing myself there's not boy/girl clothes, they're just fabric anyone can buy. (I think some of this came to be when my first child was conceived and we specifically avoided gendering kids things) Maybe I'm just looking for a way to get confirmation about what I think I'm feeling?

When you were discovering yourself, what did your journey look like? What do I do? Do you have any advice?

I'm open (and less panicked) about the ideas of some identity possibilities, but still when I think deeply, "how do I really feel about myself?" I just feel kind of empty, or a void. Any advice or guidance at all would be super helpful and much appreciated!

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Do you have the funds to invest in VR? I would 100% recommend VRChat as a way to explore your new identity. From Trans Voice worlds to picking avatars that make you feel more "you". A whole super welcoming community is out there to help you along your journey!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm not totally sure. I've never looked into it too much. I will check it out. It's probably less effective but I did decide to fire up the Old School Runescape and make a new character to try out, but haven't gotten too far yet. Last time I tried there were so many bots it just wasn't fun.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Don't underestimate the power of moving around in a 3D environment and perceiving yourself in a totally unexplored way ;) I wish you all the best, however you may continue your journey!