I hear you but at the end of the day - there really is no way I'm going to feel comfortable having an opinion on when black folks should or shouldn't use it. I could certainly understand taking it back as a catharsis, but I could imagine a lot of other reasons that might come up if I'd lived the experience of black folks. Either way I don't think I can equate the idea of me using the word as within the same realm as a black person using it.

Again, this all comes from a place of understanding where you are coming from, but I've spent a long time trying to understand where black folks might be coming from on this too, and I'm just sharing how my viewpoint has evolved over time.

Idk man like I said it’s a touchy subject and I understand that.

It totally is, and I hope I've succeeded in being conversation-y and not asshole-y. :D