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Venting/advice: I have coworkers who speak to me like I'm a child (I'm damn near 30) and mask their bullying behind toxic positivity (hexbear.net)

submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Edit: I’m going to sleep, I’m not ignoring you if it takes like 12 hours for a response.

I can elaborate if you have questions that help clear things up, suffice it to say I’m doing normal ass things and they’ll walk by and pat me on back saying “good job” in the voice one uses when a puppy begs to be let out instead of pissing on the floor.

How the fuck do I go to HR and not sound paranoid/persecution complex” about this? They took it a step further today and the meat department asshole I’ve posted about wanting to duel (damn the consequences) about before slapped my shoulder (I’m not even comfortable with a gentle pat) and said “what a perfectly adequate job you’re doing”. Of course the house trained ….pick a word that I am said “thanks for the compliment”.

I’m going to lose my job after flipping out if I allow them to continue this, yet alone escalating.

Advice?

P.S the people I work with in my department are basically just normies. No better or worse than average American. The deli guy fucking called me little one and I’m still pissed about that because I have a height complex even though Reddit losers have turned into that meaning child and I can’t tell which direction he meant it in.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 7 months ago (1 children)

pat me on back

Your definitely OK to ask people not to touch you, and then escalate it to HR if they keep doing it. 1000000% no one's allowed to touch you if you're not ok with it.

I'm regards to the verbal stuff, you're also OK to ask certain people not to talk to you outside of required work stuff. Like if you've asked them to not chat you up, and they keep doing it, it's cool to just say "I don't like the way they talk with me, and I asked them to minimise it" to HR.

You're probably not misunderstanding things either, as dudes sometimes do this shit. I'm sorry that men exist.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 months ago

I like men tbh, when they are properly socialized. I sometimes curse my dad never being around when I really needed him, but being raised by my ma and her sister probably made me better the. I would otherwise be.

I’ll definitely ask to not be touched though, but the guys a literal butcher. I doubt he has the empathy to not just an alternative