Oh god that reminds me of an old boss. I'm the type to sit in meetings and listen. Taking in everything and asking few questions/making few statements. I got pulled aside one afternoon and asked, "Why aren't you participating in the meetings? You hardly speak up and sit there looking bored." So after a few minutes of this talk I absolutely began asking the actual hard questions that I used to water down while putting in applications on the side.

Got pulled into a meeting a couple months (and several interviews) later on some email discussion I forwarded as way of explanation for a situation I was loosely involved with. The other email participant and I had a very strong relationship and because of that some professionalism fell off. Nothing truly informal. More khakis than dress pants if you will. Anyway, they tried slapping me with the old dreaded formal warning not over the situation, over "my tone used with another professional", so I pulled out the undated and unsigned notice I had been carrying around since that initial talk.

Anyway, story went on longer than expected. Point is, sometimes you're fucked either way.