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- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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Living as a chosen identity in social groups is your best bet for starting. Ask a trusted friend to call you by a different name/pronouns and see how it feels.
If you don’t have anyone that you feel you can trust, there are plenty of LGBT centered Discord communities that are publicly available. I’m sure someone in those would be willing to help out! (I can also recommend some if you want)
And if you’re not willing to do that either, the the safest option would be talking to yourself in the mirror and having a conversation trying out a new name/pronouns.
I am also free to talk if you ever need, just hmu!
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I would be up for some discord chats. I've never been into it before, but just started for another group.
The idea of looking 100% boy mode (maybe man-bear mode), beard and all, and asking someone to call me something else just feels... Silly? (I mean no disrespect) it just feels like that would be super fake to ask, with my appearance. I feel like if I looked the part, it would be better. But investing in something before you try it out isn't really a great idea either.
I can't get over how supportive and wholesome these communities have been. It's been very helpful.
This resonates with me
It's uncomfortable both ways
I get how you feel that way, and the fact that you don’t feel comfy in asking that out of your friends might be telling you something about your friends.
Anyways, my discord is @canada. Anyone else that wants to can hmu as well!
I think it only feels silly because of the way we've been conditioned. You don't explicitly feel nor look "like a woman" (or however you end up identifying) so using different pronouns is simply Weird. And that's okay.
I find it helpful to "practice" in online settings and in games, as you mentioned. Any game that allows you to select your name, gender, modify your presentation, and see yourself in the 3rd person is good, like Stardew Valley. I also use SnapChat with my queer, transitioning friends. All of my friends know who I am and my pronouns, so when we have game nights (online or in person), they'll refer to me correctly.
It takes practice.