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I don't intend to tell you or anyone else their business but this is exactly why I have personally been on a crusade against dick-size discourse for a long time - because it reinforces the cultural normativity around judging masculinity by the amount of dick a person happens to have/not have.
I would welcome anyone who feels safe enough to join me in this crusade and if it doesn't feel safe enough then feel free to involve me in it, any time.
(But please go easy on the small-dick kings who have internalised these garbage cultural beliefs; they need to be nurtured out of the internalised bigotry, not berated out of it.)
For whatever it's worth, there are some butch as hell lesbians in particular who I have known that have outstripped me in the masculinity department by miles and I think that they're wonderful. There are people in the world who would cherish your masculinity too and I sincerely hope that you believe me when I say this.
If people try to convince you that your masculinity is too much, as far as I'm concerned they can fuck off and find less.
For similar reasons, I’ve convinced several dudes to talk to their wives about using a vibrator. His wife would talk to mine about how bad the sex was and how she often didn’t get off. My wife would ask why they weren’t using toys. And apparently the husband felt insecure about them. So many guys feel like a toy is an external threat to their masculinity, like it’s separate from them. So I bring it up as casually as possible. These were people with whom we’d talked about our sex lives before so it’s not like I’m randomly bringing it up. And I just try to frame it like, if you use a toy to give your wife an orgasm, you gave her that orgasm. This has happened multiple times and at least one of them has had a positive impact. Guys need to get over the idea that their dick has to be the only way their partner can finish. It’s ridiculous.
100%
Also if you've got a dick and you see toys as your competitors then that's the quickest way for you to experience a resounding defeat because you cannot vibrate.
On the other hand, I've never come across someone who was in a committed relationship with a vibrator. I'm sure there's gotta be someone out there who is (and tbh more power to them) but most people aren't dating someone for their RPMs.
If you treat it like a race, you're going to finish early.
If you treat it like a competition, you're going to lose.
If you treat it like a mutual experience then you might just share in some intimacy, pleasure, and maybe even some adventures along the way too.
What's there to lose?
Bruh just drink more coffee
Maybe guys don't know that toys aren't automatic Os. Takes skill tonuse toy properly too. For those guys who are into developing mastery, this might make a difference
GOOD comment