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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/latinaweakness on 2023-10-07 03:58:37.

Ok does this make any sense? So recently me and the guy I’m sleeping with currently were talking about our sex, He asked me what he could do better and when I told him I prefer teasing with the tip to start,then slow half way strokes and the more aroused I get start stroking deeper and harder,

He said I thought that’s what I do,and he kind of does except when it come to the deeper and harder part,even when I feel I want it it harder I actually mean long deep strokes and when he bottoms out push on me harder,

But instead every time I say harder he just starts pounding and it actually turns me off, I’m not into hard pounding or the rabbit sex

I like strong hard deep strokes with force when hitting,

He said well that’s kind of hard with how low your vagina opening sits cause he is at a angle

Is this an actual thing because it’s sounds alittle crazy to me and I did have one guy who was able to accomplish what I am asking of him from my past so idk

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/sam64228 on 2023-10-07 02:14:38.

It's weird how this is what bothers my girlfriend, but here we go.

My girlfriend has a fetish with cum, and when we talked about me getting a vasectomy, she was okay with me getting it, we both don't want kids, but her only worry was that if I did it, would it come out watery, or less thick? And I don't know what to answer because I fr don't know what happens.

It's not important enough to turn her against my decision, but I also wanted to know: Peoplo who have had a vasectomy, does something about your sperm changes?

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/ilovecookiesssssssss on 2023-10-06 23:49:41.

I was thinking about it today, and just curious what guys think. I have an incredibly sensitive gag reflex - I’ll gag from certain smells, visuals, even just the idea of something can make me gag. Would you rather someone power through the gagging to deep throat you, or just avoid it all together if she can’t get through it without gagging?

I know I don’t need to deep throat the entire time, or even a majority of the time, to give good head. But I’m just curious if the sound/visualization of gagging is disruptive during a BJ.

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Baby-Morgana on 2023-10-07 02:06:39.

I’m just curious. Some people say it’s amazing but most people tell me it’s not all that.

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Elvis158 on 2023-10-06 22:55:32.

My boyfriend and I have been together around 7 months. We find each other attractive and get along so well. However, he seems to get a boner even when we kiss lightly, and when things get steamy there’s always pre-cum. He gets super embarrassed but I thought this meant he was super turned on? What’s the reason for this? Is it bad?

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/AssociationFormer179 on 2023-10-06 16:48:48.

To me it seems like the overwhelming preference for women in the bedroom is to be "dominated." From talking with partners over time they have said roughly the same things, they like the feeling of being desired, they like the raw nature of it, they like feeling "small" or "overpowered", etc. The thing is though, this totally ruins sex for me and turns me off completely. I don't get off at all on dominating my partner, and so what this normally means to me is that its boring and a lot of extra physical exertion without much reciprocation. In fact, I find it to be the opposite power-dynamic, its me doing all the work to please them but I don't get anything in return since the act of "dominating" isn't a turn on for me at all.

I just ran into this again the other day. I went on a few date with a woman and we ended up getting a room after the third date. She, like every other woman I have been with, told me she wants to be fucked roughly and dominated. I am so over doing it at this point that I played a long for 10 minutes until I completely lost interest and then found an excuse to stop and get dressed. I have no problem with these women wanting to have sex in a way they enjoy, but what it means for me is that its extremely difficult to find a partner I am sexually compatible with. At this point, I don't even want to have sex anymore because all I associate it with is boring emptiness and anxiety. How can I either learn to give women like this what they want while finding some enjoyment, or find a sexual dynamic I actually enjoy?

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Zealousideal-Cut689 on 2023-10-06 13:26:00.

Hi, I have an unusual problem. I'm almost 20 years old, my girlfriend is 18. We've been in a relationship for two years. Last month we managed to move together, which of course also allows us to have sex more often. And everything would be great, but... yup. When I cum, I shoot quite a lot, which really bothers my girlfriend. She says it's kinda gross and she doesn't want to be covered in it everytime we're making love. Regardless of whether I cum inside her or on her. She's on the pills, so we don't use condoms. Recently I've started cumming on a towel, but it's not the most comfortable method. Any ways to reduce sperm amount? Masturbating before is not an option :,(

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Prestigious_Rain5243 on 2023-10-06 15:10:12.

So recently I gave my boyfriend the vacuum seal bj: like during BJ you suck up his dick like a vacuum, like sucking a drink through a straw but more intense and I did this with handjob combo. He was moaning so loud while twitching and curling his toes. He came so hard, while he was cuming , I kept sucking harder and he kept jerking all through. It was hot for me seeing him like this and being able to please him. This was my first time trying this method both with him or anybody for that matter.

Men what’s your experience like with this type of bj ? Do you enjoy this ? Or it’s rather too intense?

Edit: there was a mix of edging, deep throat, I started off with a normal bj , built up excessive saliva to get wet and sloppy. The whole combo took his soul.

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/ilovechickenstew on 2023-10-06 12:31:28.

Been seeing a guy for 1.5 months. We are not officially in a relationship but we have been seeing each other a lot and I really like him and can see us being in a relationship.

He had trouble getting / staying hard the first time we had sex. After that sex has been amazing. I thought it was performance anxiety so didn’t think much of it.

One day I asked him how I can make him come cos we have had sex quite a few times now and he only came twice in total. I wish I hadn’t asked cos that led to him telling me he has ED and is taking medication.

I am fully aware that it’s a medical issue like any other and I feel sympathy for whoever taking meds for it. I just don’t know how I feel about him taking drugs that could have terrible side effects because of me. I heard terrible things like priapism (probably a rare side effect) and I’m worried

Is it even worth asking him to try without meds? Or should I just never speak of it again? I’m aware that we are not official so it’s probably not my place but I’m also glad that he told me about this.

Note we are in our early to mid 30s

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Alert_Table4866 on 2023-10-06 12:42:45.

My (27f) boyfriend (24m) have been intimate multiple times, and every time he lasts for over 3 hours without ejaculating. When I asked him how long it takes him to come if he does it himself(hand job), he mentioned it takes him around 45 minutes. Every time we had sex, he never came. This is something I've never encountered with anyone else I've been with.

While I know he's attracted to me both physically and emotionally, I can't help but feel like I've somehow failed when he can't ejaculate during our intimate moments. For me, when a partner ejaculates, it feels like a compliment or a reward.

I've reassured him that I have no issue if he ejaculates quickly, quite the opposite, but he insists that he never intentionally holds back. He's not embarrassed by it.

I'm curious if anyone else has experienced a similar situation, and if so, what could be the cause of this? Any advice or shared experiences would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Bruh1455433 on 2023-10-06 13:14:47.

So, I’ve woken up to her masturbating twice while I was sleeping. I used that as an opportunity to try to get intimate with her and I do (we’re both women). Well it happened a third time, despite me letting her know the past few days that I wanted to receive. Two nights ago we had sex and I received but it felt like I had to drop a bunch of hints and practically beg.

Well, last night we were up until midnight. She wasn’t showing much physical interest. She did try to kiss me extra before bed but that’s the length of it. We laid in bed and I let her know that I would be going to sleep (since she didn’t make any moves). As soon as I closed my eyes and decided to sleep she started to masturbate. I wasn’t even fully asleep, but I asked her why she waits for me to sleep before she decides to do that. She just said she doesn’t wait I just decided to sleep. Idk I guess I’m feeling a bit insecure by the pattern and then having to bed practically for sex.

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Super-Performer7518 on 2023-10-05 21:27:59.

So this is mortifying. I’ve talked about this with a few close friends but they were exceedingly unhelpful. I’d rather die than talk about it with literally anyone else so I come to the sweet anonymity of the internet for advice.

I possess a vagina. And I have sex with people equipped with penises. Unfortunately, anytime anything is inserted into my aforementioned vagina I feel like I’m about to poop. Doesn’t matter the size of the penis, doesn’t matter the tempo, rhythm and it happens in most positions. With fingers too.

I’ve tried going to the bathroom before hand and still felt that way. And then when I go to the bathroom afterwards it magically stops. The only time it’s bearable is when I’m not top.

Obviously, this impacts my ability to be in the moment and relax since it’s a very a uncomfortable feeling in general and I hold just in case.

I thought maybe it was related to the fact that sex just in general is painful. Like it it feels like they’re hitting my cervix with every thrust (weirdly enough being on top is the only time it didn’t hurt). Not in a “it hurts so good” kind of way in a “fuck just finish so I can be done” sort of way.

I thought I had a weird shaped pelvis or something so I went to the gynecologist but was told that everything was normal and that the pain probably comes from lack of lubrication. (I mean, obviously, you try getting turned on when you’re about to shit yourself).

So then I tried lube and that made the pain go away (still not pleasurable it just didn’t hurt anymore). But the feeling of impending poo was ever present.

I don’t know what to do. Anyone go through something like this? Advice? Or am I alone in this.

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/pervertedlittlebro on 2023-10-05 23:19:34.

I caved and today, I acquired the services of an escort. Feel free to say I'm a coward for not forging a relationship with someone and not doing it the proper way.

Regardless, I arrived at her place and we got stripped, she put the condom on and she gave me oral. Which was actually rather nice. Then she climbed on top and proceeded to ride me.

All I felt was my cock being squished really. None of that euphoria I'm told you feel when you're inside someone. I switched to missionary, I was thrusting like you're supposed to and, nothing.

When it was time to wrap up, she was trying to make me cum but.. I couldn't. Being anxious means I couldn't be fully erect I suppose. It wasn't her fault at all, and she was very understanding.

I left feeling like I had gone my whole life being told sex was amazing, then when I actually have it, the act itself was just.. hallow.

Due to having a social disability, I have no real hope nor fortune of attracting any women. Yes I've heard the whole chestnut of "put yourself out there", like that actually helps or gives me any idea what to do.

I tried dating apps, but I get myself all up in knots if I think about all the women in the area who know me personally from school, college or university days seeing me on there. Last few times I've been on there, it hasn't lasted long before I lose my nerve and delete my profile.

Anyway idk why I'm saying all that. All I need to know is, why has it been so underwhelming to me? I feel like my whole life is a lie. I've gotten myself worked up about it, done stupid and irrational things, ruined so many things because I wanted to have sex..

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/monkey_lover96 on 2023-10-06 02:00:47.

So i really dislike the way my boobs look when im on my back, i cant stand the thought of a guy looking at them when they look like that. Do you have any tips to make them stop just falling to the side and making it look like there is a huge gap between them?

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Ok-Mix-1078 on 2023-10-05 22:50:50.

Me (22f) and my boyfriend(22m) have been together for almost two years. He’s asked for anal since we got together every couple of months which didn’t bother me, but the last 3ish months he’s been asking very frequently. I’m not completely against the idea but I don’t want to try it at this point of my life and I’ve told him that multiple times. I want to be more confident in my own body first and process the sexual trauma I’ve experienced as a kid first, AND I want to do it the right way. Any kind of pain during sex immediately makes me freak out a bit. I’ve told him to stop asking me when we’re having sex or when I’m drunk. Last night we were both drunk and having really fun sex when he asked if he could just stick the tip in. Super big turn off and was almost disgusted with him. This was more of a rant post but any advice would be appreciated.

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Complex-Meaning-9166 on 2023-10-05 22:32:38.

What do you use to clean your semen? A towel you wash every two weeks? A roll of paper towels? Just curious.

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Marco_Polo_NY on 2023-10-05 16:30:54.

I’m (48m) and my girlfriend (51f) I think she’s absolutely amazing inside and out. She has a amazing personality and a stunning body. This issue is she only wants to have sex in the missionary position. We’ve been together for almost a year, and the missionary position is getting really old. I have tried talking to her once before, and she reminded me of how her ex used to treat her. I told her that I love her, and I respect her, and I have always treated her like a lady and that will never change.

Last night after dinner, I brought up the subject again. I was very polite and talked in a soft tone of voice. I explain to her that I have a lot more sexual desires, and I want them to be fulfilled with her. I could see her face getting upset, and I reassured her that I would never do anything to hurt her. She paused and explained to me that she already reiterated that she has no interest in anything but missionary and if that’s not enough then maybe I need to look elsewhere. My response was, are we ending things? She explained to me that if it wasn’t enough then maybe we should end it! I was completely in shock that she wasn’t open minded enough and cared about my needs. I also tried my best to be understanding to her needs, and validate and feelings! Then I asked her if she wants to take a break or be done? She told me that she loved me and she was going to miss me. She thinks we should be done and if time brings us back together then it’s meant to be! I was like wow ok….. I’m lost for words! A part of me is crushed and a part of me is relieved!

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/SufficientFalcon4827 on 2023-10-05 12:43:07.

My (23f) boyfriend (22m) have only been going out for a few months. We were both virgins when we met, but I have more experience than he has. He hasn’t done anything with anyone else before. So when we started doing activities like hand jobs or blow jobs I thought it might be a bit quicker, however I realized it would go on for 40mins-2hours until I eventually would just give up, and he would get himself off. I felt really bummed I couldn’t get him off, but he suggested that it might be because we aren’t doing anything penetrative. I have issues with penetration so it’s harder for me to do, but this motivated me to hopefully get over it. We eventually were able to have penetrative sex, though it causes me discomfort and some pain, he still didn’t get off. He was really into it, but he simply couldn’t come. He then suggested he might have a kink and that if I wore something to do with that, he might get off. So when I did that, I thought all would be good, but once again he didn’t come. He has never come from me, he just comes when he jerks himself off. At first I thought maybe it was related to being nervous, but this has been going on for so long, and it’s so discouraging to be going at it for 1-2hours doing multiple activities and he still doesn’t get off. I don’t even get off anymore because I just fall out of the mood after awhile. He has mentioned about being a avid porn viewer growing up and about the death grip. But I have no idea how to fix this. I have suggested he possibly go to a sex therapist or maybe a doctor to get a referral. But when he called the doctor they said to try penetrative sex. I just feel awful because everything else in our relationship is great, but we are both being left unsatisfied in the bedroom.

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Academic-Bee-5420 on 2023-10-05 16:38:23.

I used to do this with my last partner and he seemed to like it, but he is also the kind of eccentric and he likes to be babied a little.

I’m with someone new right now and I might try this on him eventually. Usually I keep cleansing wipes on hand and after sex I’d gently clean off his junk. It’s an intimacy thing for me. I’m asking, partly, to see how comfortable guys would be with this. But I’m also asking to gauge how sensitive things are afterwards. Also does that sensitivity apply to any kind of maneuvering with the balls. Would this be too overstimulating?

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/LifeAd7593 on 2023-10-05 02:21:34.

My bf and I (both 35) have only had sex 3 times in the 3 months we’ve been dating. The first time we slept together, it was great. However, it’s come to the point where he won’t try to initiate intimacy at all. Instead, he basically just puts his dick in my face for a BJ… no romancing, no foreplay, nothing. And he almost never finishes even when I do everything I can to get him off (even going up to an hour) but at the end, he will roll over, finish himself off with his hand, and then go to sleep without any attempts to satisfy me in any way. Day after day. Then I will hear him jerking off all night long, even in his sleep. He says he jerks off multiple times a day and he’s so used to it that he can’t finish any other way.

I have a very high sex drive so this is very frustrating for me. I’ve talked to him about it and we’ve since had sex 2 more times but he didn’t finish either time. He’s by no means out of shape but says sex is “too much work” for the guy and even took breaks in between intercourse (literally laying down and resting) before getting up again for another BJ to continue intercourse. Eventually he just finishes himself off by masturbating. He’s recently suggested going on a 30 day masturbation/BJ/sex hiatus (as if we even have sex…) because he heard that will help “normalize” things…

I was curious if anyone else has experienced something like this or what your thoughts were about this issue.

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/InevitableNormal4437 on 2023-10-05 05:42:47.

My boyfriend and I have been together for a few months and started having sex around a month ago. Before him, I was a virgin. He, on the other hand, has had his fine share of sexual experiences.

Anyways, in the beginning I thought the main problem was me, because I was much less experienced. Now, looking at it, I have been doing everything I can to give him a nice time, but he isn't helping much.

For instance, we only have sex when I initiate it, and I do it roughly 90% of the time. When we are doing it, I try including some dirty talk, I offer him blow jobs, make eye contact, go on top and try different positions.

When I don't know how to do a position properly, I guide his hands through my body to help me out, or openly ask for his help. He helps for a little bit then goes back to just laying there.

Also, sex ends when he cums, and I've never had an orgasm with him. He has tried, but we both gave up after we spent nearly 2 hours getting my body ready with absolutely no results.

I tried vocalising that in various ways... by joking around, by explicitly telling him what I want or hinting it in a subtle way, but we still don't have good sex. What should I do?

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/crow_lady on 2023-10-05 03:36:21.

Hey everyone, so first things first, I (31F) have been married to my husband (32M) for the past 5 years.

We love each other dearly, are happy together and I honestly can't imagine my life without him.

That said, before we met I dated this girl (30F) for a couple of months and we had so many things in common. Like the chemistry was off the charts, we would talk for hours as well as have some amazing sex. However due to different stages in our lives and taking different paths, we split amicably and have gone on to marry our current partners.

We have been friends since, although with, I have to admit, some pretty obvious (but willfully ignored on all sides) sexual tones for all these past years.

Now, about two weeks ago my husband and I were chilling when he told me that he would like to have a threesome.

We had talked about this multiple times and I have always been open in theory, but I wasn't quite sure he would actually be ok with it since he's known for being slightly insecure. However, this time I was tipsy and I said ok, how about we text my old friend?

Flash forward a couple of days, she said yes and we had the most amazing sex of our lives. Like, all of us collectively said so even in private. But I still can't shake the feeling that a part of me would rather have sex with her individually.

How bad of a person am I? What can I do?

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Sufficient-Ice503 on 2023-10-05 02:35:48.

I know this story is far out there and no one will probably believe me, but unfortunately this did happen. Two weeks ago I went on a first date with a woman I met on Hinge. After the date ended she found out I Ubered to the bar and she offered to drive me home. I figured I might as well save $20 and I let her take me. When we got to my place she invited herself in, one thing led to another, and we wound up hooking up. Unfortunately for me, it was not a good experience. She commented on multiple insecurities of mine and I can't get it out of my head now.

• When she went to take off my jeans she let out a sigh and said "all right, lets see what we're working with now". I immediately got super nervous because I knew she was going to judge me. I gave out a nervous chuckle and just said "not much I'm really sorry".

• We were going at it and she asked me to use my fingers instead because they were thicker.

• When we finished I was too nervous to ask her to leave and we were laying in my bed for like 1.5 hours. At one point she went, "Can I ask you a question? Did you previously lose a lot of weight?". I told her I did and asked her how she knew. She said "I can see the loose skin on your stomach" and proceeded to pinch my stomach.

• While we were laying in bed she asked me how many people I've been with. I tried to avoid the question but she persisted, and I eventually just told her I don't have much experience (the truth). She proceeded to tell me about the guys she has been with, along with the biggest guy she's been with. Who if she was being truthful about, is literally double me.

After what felt like an eternity she said she had work in the morning and she had to leave. I texted her the next day thanking her for a good time but saying I didn't think the connection was what I was looking for. I didn't think it'd be productive to ask what her problem was, so I left it at that.

Since then I just can't get everything she said/did out of my head. I told my therapist about it, and she apologized and said I ran into the most bizarre woman in the city, and that she promises most women would not do or say that. But to be honest, that isn't very helpful. I feel like now if I'm ever with someone again, I'm going to have to be worried about if they're actually grossed out by my loose skin, or disappointed with what I have, or if they're judging me like she did.

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/throw-away-627 on 2023-10-05 00:15:24.

I, 25f, and my fiance, 28m, had our first child(who's now 6 months old). Our sex life hasn't been the same since and I need advice. The main problem isn't the lust or anything like that it's that during the act he says that he no longer feels me. He went a long time without telling me this and he's to the point where he just wants to give up and not have a sex life. Both of us now have bad mental health when it comes to approaching each other. I'm so lost I'm not sure what information y'all even need to help. But what do we do? How do we get our sex life back?

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Ihategoodthings on 2023-10-05 02:10:50.

Ive only been on top of my boyfriend once or twice VERY briefly because I found it more comfortable for initial insertion. I recently tried riding him for longer and absolutely loved it. he was sitting up against the wall and I was bouncing on his lap. i was going pretty fast and i could tell he was enjoying it a LOT. out of nowhere he stopped me and wrapped himself around me and started hugging me very tight while leaning us forward, this lasted like 7 seconds and he went back to normal. A while later he did the same thing and again a few minutes after that. It honestly felt great but I’m so confused what it was? why does he do this?