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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK on 2023-09-07 18:45:52.

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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK on 2023-09-06 19:27:46.

Original Title: How parents can help teenage boys stay focused and pay attention to their feelings: "It's not that teen boys are from Mars and teen girls are from Venus, exactly. But according to science, the two genders seem to travel in different orbits."

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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/flatkitsune on 2023-09-05 19:00:10.

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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/Stalwartheart on 2023-09-04 22:50:24.

I've been lurking on this sub for a while and really like this space where we can talk about men's issues grounded in academic thinking.

I graduated college recently and realized how poor my support structure was outside of university and really struggling within the intersection of the patriarchy and late stage capitalism. All of the solutions I've read here so far have been how to stop the cycle of harmful cultural norms for future generations which I have been applying to my younger relatives. But, I don't know how to actually help myself. Where do I start? It seems a little overwhelming.

I gotta be honest here, it feels like drowining to watch how all of the awful symptoms of systemic issues I have learned are hitting me hard while I was only taught how to help others, or that solutions are gradual or grounded in policy. So I only know how to create change on a macro instead of micro-level

Thank you for being a wonderful communtiy and any advice is appreciated.

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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/MLModBot on 2023-09-05 08:00:10.

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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/Shawnj2 on 2023-09-02 18:50:26.

I think this subreddit and other sources like ones posted here have done a really good job identifying the problems of being a man in 2023, but there isn’t much in the way of concrete solutions. One reason why shitty people like Andrew Tate, etc. have the popularity that they do is because they are charlatans who pretend they have a solution to this and have an idea of what a man can be people should follow. How does this community start bringing the ideas raised here more mainstream without opposing anything feminism has accomplished? I think small things people can do now, activism, etc. might be options

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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/Apprehensive_Dig_174 on 2023-09-02 12:06:40.

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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/Apprehensive_Dig_174 on 2023-08-26 03:31:40.

I wrote a few posts on masculinity and would love to get your thoughts

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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/macrofinite on 2023-09-01 17:24:38.

Maybe I just missed them, but I’ve never seen anyone share an FD video on here. The YouTube algorithm finally introduced me to him a few weeks back, and I’ve been sad that this incredible voice has been languishing in relative obscurity. His channel focuses a lot on media from a black male perspective, but he talks a lot about masculinity as it relates to each topic.

One particularly excellent video is his anime analysis, currently called “Anime fans deserve better than Eren Yeager” -

He spends a lot of time analyzing why anime appeals to so many young men, and what that means about modern masculinity. It’s well worth a watch.

He has a number of videos on various hip hop figures which I really appreciated. Especially his 2-parter on Kanye, which helped me understand the tragedy of Kanye’s story in the context of his more recent actions.

As a white dude, I really enjoy hearing a black perspective. The experience he describes of masculinity is a more extreme version of a lot of things I’m dealing with too. I think that intersectionality lends some clarity that allows him to articulate things I’ve thought and felt but didn’t have the words for. It seems like his perspective is uniquely positioned to articulate the ways in which the privileges of patriarchy often harm men as human beings.

Anyway, please check his channel out, he has a lot of worthwhile insight.

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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/unforsConsequences on 2023-09-01 16:28:10.

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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/MLModBot on 2023-09-01 08:00:08.

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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK on 2023-08-30 21:03:57.

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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK on 2023-08-29 19:34:09.

Here's an article about it.

Here's the research.

My theory? I think teachers are more likely to be lenient on behavior issues if the kid in question is a good student, and girls are more likely to be good students. I had a teacher straight up tell me once that she let me slide on disruptive behavior because I also participated in class discussion earnestly.

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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/MLModBot on 2023-08-29 08:00:10.

Good day, everyone and welcome to our weekly mental health check-in thread! Feel free to comment below with how you are doing, as well as any coping skills and self-care strategies others can try! For information on mental health resources and support, feel free to consult our resources wiki (also located in the sidebar!) (IMPORTANT NOTE RE: THE RESOURCES WIKI: As Reddit is a global community, we hope our list of resources are diverse enough to better serve our community. As such, if you live in a country and/or geographic region that is NOT listed/represented but know of a local resource you feel would be beneficial, then please don't hesitate to let us know!)

Remember, you are human, it's OK to not be OK. We're currently in the middle of a global pandemic and are all struggling with how to cope and make sense of things. Try to be kind to yourself and remember that people need people. No one is a lone island and you need not struggle alone. Remember to practice self-care and alone time as well. You can't pour from an empty cup and your life is worth it.

Take a moment to check in with a loved one, friend, or acquaintance. Ask them how they're doing, ask them about their mental health. Keep in mind that while we may not all be mentally ill, we all have mental health.

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IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: This mental health check-in thread is NOT a substitute for real-world professional help/support. MensLib is NOT a mental health support sub, and we are NOT professionals! This space solely exists to hold space for the community and help keep each other accountable.

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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/MLModBot on 2023-08-25 08:00:09.

Welcome to our weekly Free Talk Friday thread! Feel free to discuss anything on your mind, issues you may be dealing with, how your week has been, cool new music or tv shows, school, work, sports, anything!

We will still have a few rules:

• All of the sidebar rules still apply.
• No gender politics. The exception is for people discussing their own personal issues that may be gendered in nature. We won't be too strict with this rule but just keep in mind the primary goal is to keep this thread no-pressure, supportive, fun, and a way for people to get to know each other better.
• Any other topic is allowed.

We have an active slack channel! It's like IRC but better. Please modmail us if you would like an invitation. As a reminder, take a look at our resources wiki if you need additional support as well.

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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/MLModBot on 2023-08-18 08:00:09.

Welcome to our weekly Free Talk Friday thread! Feel free to discuss anything on your mind, issues you may be dealing with, how your week has been, cool new music or tv shows, school, work, sports, anything!

We will still have a few rules:

• All of the sidebar rules still apply.
• No gender politics. The exception is for people discussing their own personal issues that may be gendered in nature. We won't be too strict with this rule but just keep in mind the primary goal is to keep this thread no-pressure, supportive, fun, and a way for people to get to know each other better.
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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/posivibes on 2023-08-27 19:28:29.

Aloha everyone!

I am a cis het male high school teacher at a public school in the United States. I am currently the teacher advisor for the schools Feminist Club. I was hoping to draw in our young men, but the club has been avoided by most. However, we have young men who I think would benefit from a men’s liberation program. I’d like to go to my principal with an idea for a Success Stories by Richie Reseda like program that could serve as an alternative to punishment. I’ve been googling and can’t find comprehensive resources, guides or curriculums for this type of project. Does anyone have any recommendations or resources? Mahalo!!

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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/LengthinessRemote562 on 2023-08-27 17:15:12.

So I read FTLOM and the will to change, and I liked them, BUT I think FTLOM lacks that edge for me, something new, something surprising I wouldn't have thought about.

What epitomizes this is the section on "Post Me-too rules", which is: #1 Take stock of how much power you have (relational power), #2 When trying to date women at work, use the rule of one, #3 be aware that if the attraction is mutual, than it isn't harassment, #4 You don't have to avoid women, just not harass them, #5 When it comes to chivalry in the workplace, ask if you're not able to tell, #6 Don't do anything for women you wouldn't also do for a man.

Her book is good, but I don't see a purpose in reading it. Maybe its because I've already watched a lot of videos and read think pieces that use parts of her books, but I dont really learn enough from this book to justify buying something similar. Maybe its addressed to people who have recently escaped the "manosphere", or something else, but I'd like to read a book that is a bit more in-depth.

I liked bell hooks book a bit more tbh, because it explored her and other women's experiences more in-depth and this served as an aid to understand these issues.

TL;DR: I'd be interested in books that serve to deconstruct toxic masculine behaviors. I dont need them tied into a new masculine identity, but I'd like to eradicate the subtle misogyny I sadly unconsciously annoy/hurt my female friends with.

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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK on 2023-08-26 21:06:30.

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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/RhiaStark on 2023-08-22 02:00:45.

Hi everyone!

Sorry if this isn't the best sub to post this question, but I thought it was worth a try ^^''

I'm preparing a PhD thesis project on depictions of masculinity in New Adult literature. My thesis statement is that, while male characters from stories in this genre are often considered to offer positive, "non-toxic" depictions of masculinity, in reality they still embody many aspects of what traditional masculinity would consider desirable for men to embody.

Now, as I'm gathering texts to provide a theoretical framework to support my analysis, it occurs to me that my corpus sorely lacks male authors. I've read a lot on masculinity and men's issues as written by women; in the past, I confess I was kinda prejudiced against men's issues debates as done by men, because the only men I knew doing that were the likes of Jordan Peterson and other manosphere "icons." It wasn't until recently that I found channels that discuss masculinity/men's issues in a constructive way; FD Signifier in particular has been such an eye-opener *.*

But I'd like more references, especially academic ones (I'm not sure my uni's English-Language Literature department will appreciate a thesis project with too many youtubers listed as reference ^^''). Male authors that discuss depictions of masculinity in literature, TV or film would be great, but I'll be a very happy PhD candidate with male authors that debate masculinity and men's issues in general <3

Thanks in advance!

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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK on 2023-08-22 20:29:27.

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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/MLModBot on 2023-08-22 08:00:09.

Good day, everyone and welcome to our weekly mental health check-in thread! Feel free to comment below with how you are doing, as well as any coping skills and self-care strategies others can try! For information on mental health resources and support, feel free to consult our resources wiki (also located in the sidebar!) (IMPORTANT NOTE RE: THE RESOURCES WIKI: As Reddit is a global community, we hope our list of resources are diverse enough to better serve our community. As such, if you live in a country and/or geographic region that is NOT listed/represented but know of a local resource you feel would be beneficial, then please don't hesitate to let us know!)

Remember, you are human, it's OK to not be OK. We're currently in the middle of a global pandemic and are all struggling with how to cope and make sense of things. Try to be kind to yourself and remember that people need people. No one is a lone island and you need not struggle alone. Remember to practice self-care and alone time as well. You can't pour from an empty cup and your life is worth it.

Take a moment to check in with a loved one, friend, or acquaintance. Ask them how they're doing, ask them about their mental health. Keep in mind that while we may not all be mentally ill, we all have mental health.

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The original was posted on /r/menslib by /u/TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK on 2023-08-21 21:29:51.