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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/El-Catman on 2023-10-07 04:39:47.

Got dismissed from my job due to disorganization and stress. Literally the only reasons why I got fired. In fact their last parting words to me was to find a 'less stressful job.' Was given the typical 30 days notice but looking deeper into Japanese labor laws, found the company I was dismissed from had to take steps to do everything but dismissal. Training relocation, etc.

Okay, after I get all the official paperwork, I do the Hello Work thing and go to the labor board and lay our everything that happened in the month of June. High stress job, they were constantly moving the field post, any help that I asked for was half assed and they made their choice to dismiss on a day where I was so stressed from all the BS, I had a breakdown.

Labor inspection says let's do mediation and ask for three months salary. Okay, cool. I fill in that paperwork and was told mediation was voluntary, so my old job could just give me the bird if they didn't want to mediate (which they did.)

Labor inspection sent me a register letter saying mediation fell through, the company didn't want to mediate but they suggested I get a lawyer. I have consolation with one this up coming week, to see what my options are.

It feels like the system is set up for you to not fight for your rights. After all that stress and heartache at that job, however, I'm not going down with out a fight.

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/tjs120791 on 2023-10-06 21:26:17.

A psychiatric hospital or counselor maybe. Thank you.

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/froglilies on 2023-10-05 14:09:23.

I recently interviewed for a fully remote job that pays a lot more than my current one, it is a European company that need people to work for them in Japan. However, this company does not sponsor my visa. I currently have a visa that will last until 2026. My current job and this new job is very similar (within the IT field) and I do not think my visa type would be a problem working this job. I have the engineer - humanities visa

Can I work for this company until 2026 without any issue?

Edit: so basically they dont have an official office in japan but they do have some sort of HR lady living here that would be my boss. I dont know how that works exactly but they said the role is fully remote so??? Im so confused.

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/fdokinawa on 2023-10-05 01:53:32.

Saw this on the news the other day. Looks like bankruptcies in ramen restaurants is up 3.5% over last year. Rising energy costs along with the inability to raise prices past 1,000 yen due to customer expectations of "cheap, but good" ramen is causing some to close down.

Not sure what can be done about this as we all know how the Japanese feel about price changes. Only thing I can think is to tell your favorite local ramen restaurant that you are willing to pay more rather then have them shut down.

The news report also said that people were willing to pay more for pasta dishes vs Japanese ramen because "Ramen is a local food and should be cheap. Where pasta is imported and therefore more expensive.". The view that Italian spaghetti should be more expensive than ramen is just crazy to me. Guess I should go open a pasta restaurant.

Support your local Ramen restaurants!

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/NoEstablishment1235 on 2023-10-04 14:38:45.

Been married for 7 years, have 2 kids. Wife started a new job in April and has been acting odd for months, had my suspicions that she was having an affair due to a strange message she sent me by mistake a month ago and the increased number of late shifts she has been doing recently. She had a reasonable explanation for all of it so I gave her the benefit of the doubt. Today I was using her PC which had LINE installed and managed to see her messages. Looks like she’s been cheating with this guy (who is also married with kids) for months. I’m absolutely devastated and have no idea what to do. She has no idea that I know. My biggest worry is her demanding a divorce if I confront her with it and losing access to my kids. I could also lose my job as well if I got a divorce as she was the one that got it for me. This is a throwaway account as I don’t want people I know finding out. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/lucidsinapse on 2023-10-04 14:26:07.

What is it? Who told them it’s ok?

At what point did they get it twisted…?

Edit - everyone seems to be confused, I’m not asking for where to get real bacon. I’m wondering why Japanese people think the stuff that’s everywhere here is ok?

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/Banananabanana1 on 2023-10-04 09:41:03.

This is for all the parents with halfie daughters.

30F born Hanako Jane Smith in Australia. Dual citizen with the name Yamada HanakoJane in Japan and (Smith) on my J passport.

Got both my 10 year passports done in Australia at 20 and dreaded the day I had to renew it. I read up on the “I’m choosing Japan” thing and how to get around it.

I got married last year and had to renew my J passport and change the name. I wasn’t sure if I was going to be able to keep (Smith) because it isn’t even considered a maiden name in Japan.

Reason for wanting to keep Smith: (not sure if it’s even going to help) but I am currently pregnant with my first child and want to give it the choice of living in Australia as a citizen. In doing this, I need to provide evidence that Yamada (now Takeda) HanakoJane who gave birth is infact the same person as Hanako Jane Smith. I was scared that getting rid of Smith on every single J document I have would get me stuck with no way to link the 2 names.

Well, today I firstly went to the Aus embassy to renew my Aus passport. That took literally 3 minutes. Real good stuff Australia. Then I went to the passport center in Yurakucho and waited for 2hrs. Heart beating. Rehearsing my line “yes, I am choosing Japan. Iv been busy”. My number gets called. Lady looks at my form with a tick on “dual citizen”. Checks the next page requesting my gaijin surname in brackets.

She asks me “this is your fathers surname?” I said “yes, it’s my 旧姓 in Australia”. She says “ok, but I can’t put it down as former surname. It has to be alternative surname. Is that ok?” I say sure. She says 二重国籍の方は結婚すると2個書く人いますが、Takeda Hanako Jane (Yamada Smith) じゃなくていいですか？

I thought that was a little too much so I said just the Smith was good.

So all is good guys. She didn’t give a crap that I’m dual. Even made suggestions.

So once again, Pro tip I always give to halfie parents to be: don’t give your kid 2 surnames.

Next mission: “can HanakoJane Takeda get her kid an Aussie citizenship”

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/yokoyokogirl on 2023-10-03 15:00:46.

Caught husband with his work mistress just last month after taking a family trip the day before.

Plenty of evidence to sue both parties and I already have served notice of my intent to do so to both parties. (Backstory: If I tell their company about this, both of them will get fired) Of course, I won't say anything but I did tell his mom simply because she is/has been a lot of help to us over the years. She was livid to find this out and also knows he possibly jeopardized his job with this older (married) woman. She begged me to make sure the kids never know about this, as they will likely hate him. His dad said he "must be a sex addict to do this to his family after our family trip" and told him he's not welcome in their home anymore. He also said I should "probably get tested since he seems to want to put his stuff in anything".

So guess what? Now that his family has turned on him, the husband is suddenly he's saying he wants counseling and he will pay whatever I ask to stay together. He said he doesn't talk to her anymore even tho they work at the same place and he has no plans to transfer. I really don't trust anything he says, even down to what he ate for lunch or what the weather is. It's all lies, but I'm wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation and their spouse changed after counseling or what not.

Or is that the same as hoping for world peace?

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/KaleAggravating8309 on 2023-10-02 12:30:00.

Trigger warning for SA

I was SA'd while jogging in my neighborhood a few months ago and reported to the police and submitted a higai todoke (a whole other story how terrible that process was). They called me in two more times for the investigation, one time for a DNA swab because they did a DNA test on my clothes, but they never told me any info on how the investigation was going.

I just got a call from the police station telling me that they caught the guy that did it, and that I could live my life safely now. They also asked if I needed counseling or if I wanted the police to call me every once in a while to "check in". But that's it. Nothing about a trial or anything?

I tried to ask about that, and they told me he was going on trial for a crime he'd committed against someone else. (I'm assuming that's how they got his DNA on file and it matched with what they found on my clothes.) Then I asked how I could find out about the results of his trial, and they basically told me that I couldn't. And then they said that maybe another police department? would contact me for questioning, but probably not.

Anyways, I am a little relieved, but also very confused. I don't know much about how criminal justice works in my home country, much less Japan. But I kind of feel like I should have a right to know where the police are going with my investigation or if they will even bring my specific case to court. And since the crime happened a few minutes from my apartment, I would like to know what his sentencing will be for this other case... It would bring me a lot of ease to know if he's found guilty, if he's going to prison, for how long, etc.

I would be really appreciative if anyone could tell me anything about the information I'm entitled to regarding this. I don't want to know any personal details about the suspect or the other case/victim, just the results of the trial.

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/Yokohamasan on 2023-10-03 02:39:54.

My child was born in Japan this year. Since both of the parents are not Japanese national, she's not entitled for a Japanese citzenship (However, she has received a dependent visa to stay in Japan).

At the moment, she's considered as "statelessness". We've already began the process of registering birth aboard for the country where I have citizenship (Ireland), however, the wait time for this process takes months to more than a year to proceed.

I've emailed the department to ask if they can fast-track the process considering that the child is currently stateless. They've asked to supply a "original documentation from the relevant civil authorities to confirm that the applicant holds no entitlement to citizenship from their country of birth".

Does anyone know where and how can I obtain such document? I've tried to search online but couldn't find anything relevant.

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/No-Significance-3333 on 2023-10-03 02:25:25.

I was born and raised in Japan, but have been studying at a Canadian university for over seven years.

Just finished my thesis and came back to my hometown to seek a job related to materials engineering, but it seems like most of the job entries are closed now.

I also heard most Japanese companies don't accept any job applications until next spring or so.

I'm feeling like I came back at the worst time for job hunting imaginable, and even considering going back to Canada and getting a job there.

Have any of you been in the same shoes? If so, how did you deal with a situation like this?

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/zhuzhu09 on 2023-10-02 15:30:35.

Don’t ask me how. Don’t ask me why.

My partner “accidentally” wrote his address on the back side of his zairyu card by hand with a non erasable pen……

I assume it means the card cannot be accepted anymore and needs to be changed/corrected…right? He had to show it at the post office today and that self-written address on the back was a big deal.

Have you done this before and what should he do? The immigration office didn’t pick up the phone today, unfortunately.

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/diamondx911 on 2023-10-02 07:34:52.

Needed it for a visa. My fault, should have checked before. Sometimes , some errands that should take less than a day in your home country will take more here. I knew about the inconvenience of banking here but totally forgot this time.

I'm pissed, sorry for the rant .

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/RedRukia10 on 2023-10-02 04:34:14.

I have encountered the same smell while living in both Kyoto and Fukui-ken. I have not smelt it all summer but suddenly today I've been getting wiffs of it everywhere, so I'm wondering if it's from a plant that blooms around this time of year. It's a pleasant, woody smell, a little sweet. If I had to guess what it was, I'd say it smells like bamboo. But I smell it literally everywhere, so maybe it some kind of grass..

Anyway, I love this smell! If I could identify it, I would totally try and find a candle with it's scent.

EDIT: So it's probably kinmokusei! Thank you reddit!

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/Outside_Fold_3649 on 2023-10-02 03:09:07.

Not sure where to turn on this one - google won't help. Not sure if it is a common issue in Japan or not. Been in my current place in Tokyo for 14 months. For the first ten my address worked perfectly on google maps. But suddenly about 4 months ago Google decided to "correct" all searches for my address to another address on the street behind me.

I will use a fake address to explain: type in Bananamachi 5-6 and the correct Ku and post code. Hit enter. Then the only search result is Bananamachi 5-5, which is on a different street. This is what happens for navigation on google as well. Type in my address and google starts navigating you to a different address on the next street.

Guess where some of my deliveries and all of my first time house guests are going??? It reached the ridiculous on Saturday when the aircon service guy and my son's new tutor met each other outside the other building a street away. They actually spoke to each other in the confusion trying to find the place.

I have tried the google maps correction method but they say its resolved.

Anyone else had this problem and find a way to fix it? Its not like you can opt out of google, you are stuck no matter what. We can't exactly keep ordering food and standing outside someone elses house to intercept it!

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/TokyoGaijin23 on 2023-10-01 16:21:21.

Ongoing dispute in our household at the moment on whether the cost and effort for juku is worth it, looking for advice from parents that faced the same issue.

Our daughter, 6th grader, is going to juku 4 times a week which is costing us on average 70k per month. She leaves for school at 7:30am and comes home from juku at 7pm. On top of that, she is often having to study in her room until 11pm. This study routine is all being pushed by my spouse.

While of course I want the best education for my child, I don't at all agree with these extreme levels of study. I see the stress it is causing for our daughter, she is often exhausted, missing out on hanging with friends and has pretty much withdrawn from all other extracurricular activities that she used to enjoy.

The expense of juku aside, I can't fathom why this is necessary for a child at her age. Yet according to my wife there is no other choice if we want our child to get into a preferred highschool in our area.

Any advice or should I just begrudgingly accept this is the way things are here?

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/Kittystabsyou on 2023-09-30 21:05:47.

Hey everybody, I just moved into a sharehouse in Toshima. We have some shower rooms and toilet rooms. None of them come with a wash basin, except the tiny one above the toilet. Am I supposed to brush my teeth there? Or do japanese people do all of their stuff while showering? Like, what about just washing your face or removing makeup. I feel so dumb for asking this but I'm genuinely confused right now man

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/dr-spaghetti on 2023-10-01 06:53:59.

My husband had (I think) a seizure this morning. We have been calling everywhere we can find with 脳神専門家 or 内科, but everyone is either closed or says they don’t have the right equipment.

7119 said we didn’t need an ambulance, and none of the hospitals they gave were able to see him.

What am I supposed to do? Is there something obvious I’m not thinking of in my anxiety? I don’t want to wait until things open tomorrow when something could really be wrong.

Extra info -- In Tokyo. It’s never happened before but he’s recently started taking new medications. He says he feels fine and is starting to get frustrated with my worrying.

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/mrdigdogdiggity on 2023-09-30 06:44:50.

For shifting down gears to let you into the lane or to turn at an intersection. Even flashing their lights at you to let you know.

Regular Japanese drivers baffle me all the time. They turn sooooo slowly. They'll park anywhere. They don't really have the concept of an entering and exiting lane in a parking lot. But big truck drivers here are great and very considerate.

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/YakiSalmonMayo on 2023-09-30 05:00:07.

There are few things that really irk me but this is definitely one of them. I’m on a public bus in Tokyo and there are three moms standing holding babies and no one giving up their seats. All of the people in the seats with the handicap mark are young and athletic (and from what I can see, don’t have any visible handicaps… I might be wrong). But their eyes are glued to their phones and pretending not to notice the moms struggling to hold their babies standing on a moving bus.

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/Unhappy-Comment-4491 on 2023-09-30 04:47:51.

It seems like every time I tell a Japanese person my job, they want to know my salary. Even people I’m not close with! I’ll admit, I don’t have typical job, so I understand their curiosity. Not that I care to ask anyone, but what’s cultural acceptable for talking about one’s salary? Does everyone do it, or only with people your age and below?

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/CasperandFez on 2023-09-30 02:30:09.

My best friend, the man who raised me essentially on his own had a heart attack. We’re not sure how bad it is yet, he will have testing on Monday to see if he needs open heart surgery. If that’s the case then I will fly home. (I have 3 siblings, 2 of them are with him) I have a spouse visa and haven’t left Japan yet. I know I need to apply for re-entry but do I also need proof of a return ticket back to Japan? I’m not sure yet if I could get a round-trip ticket or if it needs to be a one way ticket for… time to deal with funeral arrangements.

If anyone knows or has informational links I would really appreciate it. I’m pretty dyslexic and it takes me a lot of concentration and time to read and understand the government websites information and I just can’t right now. Thanks everyone I appreciate it.

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/Herpe_tologist on 2023-09-29 15:12:56.

Like god damn that’s a bright moon.

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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/KudaCee on 2023-09-29 14:43:31.

Tokyo to LAX one way any date how is it possible United, AA, Delta can be 4-5x cheaper than JAL and ANA? Economy is almost what business class fares typically cost. How are they selling any tickets? I don't get it.

Edit: At this moment the least expensive one-way flight as far as I can see from next week to any date well into 2024 on ANA or JAL to LAX is 248,000 yen.

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