Transfem

There's not really a guide that can tell you what you want, that's up to you to decide.

Most of transition is just getting used to and getting better at living your gender, that just comes naturally with time and practice. This includes things like makeup, wardrobe, mannerisms and speech patterns for example.

Obviously, you can focus on one of these things at a time, like practice a lot of makeup or do voice training, and that is a very good start of you are new to it, as this sort of focued approach helps you get the basics down. But once you have that, it is, as i said, mostly a matter of slowly improving over time.

When it comes to medical stuff, there are a lot of options and you can choose which ones, if any, you want to pursue. Options include things like bottom surgery, laser hair removal, breast augmentation, tracheal shave, facial feminization surgery and so on. Now, i, for example, believe that i'll be perfectly happy with only laser hair removal and bottom surgery, so think of this as more of a pick and choose thing, where you only do the ones that you think you need.

About planning. You said you've been at it for almost two years, so you should have a good feeling of how the amount of change you had feels over this period of time. Maybe a good approach would be to think about the next two years: are you happy with the pace that you've been going at? Would you like more changes faster, or perhaps even slow down a little? You can balance your transition around what pace feels right for you, again, transition is a highly individual thing that nobody can tell you how to do exactly. Keep in mind that surgeries are hard ro plan ahead because of waiting lists and there's of course the question of money and/or insurance (i for one have been wanting to do laser hair removal for over half a year now but my insurance is gatekeeping me big time), as well as recovery periods that you have to plan around.

I apologize for the length of this comment but i hope it has been at least somewhat useful :)

As a lot of other comments said, what stuff you choose to do or not do is completely up to you, but I think I relate to the want for some kind of guide, just to get an idea of what's possible in one's transition. The closest thing I am aware of is this video, "The Transfemme Field Guide:" https://youtu.be/xJHlNX56K2E

It's not really a guide giving steps on how to transition, it's more of a collection of tips and advice on various aspects of transitioning, so you can pick and choose which advice to follow. Hope this helps!

I think it's next to impossible to write a guide on how to transition. It's so multidimensional and personalized that any guide saying do x, y and z is going to be wrong for someone. But maybe something very, very general can be written.

You've actually been at this longer than me so maybe you have a better idea of what transition is to you but I split mine into three broad categories; mental, social and medical.

Mental transition is working on how you view yourself and how you fit into the world. For me it mainly involves reflection on what exactly do I want, how do I get it, and why haven't I. Usually unpacking internalized transphobia for me but also involves integrateing 'girl me' me into my view of myself. Slots in with medical transition in that you may want to talk to a therapist to assist you with it and helps you decide if and how you want to medically transition. Fits in with social transition in it is how you decide to transition and overcome inhibitions to transition. Maybe the hardest easy thing to do.

Social transition is changing how you interact with the people and the world around you. Probably the first thing most people think of when they say transition. Covers a huge range of things like how you groom yourself, clothes, pronouns, voice training and many many more. How, when and why someone does one thing or another is going to be very personal and specific to them.

Medical transition is basically anything you need a doctor to help you with. I include feminizing HRT here even though you could technically do it by yourself in a lot of jurisdictions. I would also include any mental health consoling here. My advice here is to basically get in line the second you have an inkling that you are going want or need help from the medical community. The wait times for it can be months or years depending on location. If when you get to the front of the line and decide you don't want anything you can always decline and they'll go to the next person.