Asklemmy

So I'm white but my wife is Latina and considering Latinx was tacked onto the language by a bunch of random white kids I'd say it's pretty well disliked given where we live. Never heard Latine but I'd imagine that also isn't going over very well.

As someone who used Latinx in a Lemmy post and then was down voted to oblivion, just go Latino or Latina. But good on you for asking people how they'd like to be called.

Latine

Latinx is a bastardization of the Spanish language . Majority of Latinos hate it.

Neither, use "Latino", that's the gender neutral form.
Or if you don't want to use it and don't want to follow Spanish rules then follow English rules and use "Latin".

Latinx is an Anglicization

But also has radical roots among the Latin American community within the US

idk i have passing complexion and little connection to the community so probably not my business 🤷‍♀️

Latinx doesn't work and it's embarrassing to force it. Latine at least kind of sounds right, but what are we doing here? If you're speaking English and don't want to say Latino or Latina, you can just say Latin American. In Spanish if an individual says they want to be referred to as latine then you should respect that. Otherwise, latinos is fine for a mixed gender group.

Funnily enough, in French, “latine” is the feminine form of the adjective “latin” lol

my neighbors all refer to themselves as Hispanic

I use hispanic and can't say i have much care for the whole latinx/e debate, but if latino or latina just doesn't float your boat, I think latine at least sounds better and looks better.

E isn't a confirmed gender neutral suffix - it's a male/undescribed suffix. Latinx is the preferred group noun for people who don't like Latino/Latinos (which are the old technically correct terms for gender unconfirmed or mixed groups).