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Truly feels hopeless - any techniques to calm my mind? (lemm.ee)

submitted 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I've posted previously and appreciate everyone and all the advice. As an update, I'm still without a job. IT in the Midwest area seems to be horrendously bad. I have friends out of work too, its not just me, but I'm over a year at this point.

Changed my resume more times than I can count, using advice from here, friends, ChatGPT, etc. No difference really.

My car was always first on the list to be replaced. Well, a few fays ago I hit/ran over an animal that ran out and it destroyed my radiator and who knows what else. This is a big problem, I live 30-35 minutes from any sort of city with jobs.

All I can do when I try to sleep is lay in bed and go over it all, how bad it is, what did I do wrong, why do things just keep getting worse and worse, etc. I'm hoping someone has a technique that works for them to get those thoughts out. So I can sleep well, and have the energy to keep on

Of course I'll accept advice about anything, and appreciate the time and everyone reading!

Thank you

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

So the things that help me the best. Making sure I do my self-care. For me that looks like meditation, exercise, seeing a therapist, and going to mental health support groups (NAMI it's an excellent resource for this).

Here's a meditation that will help you to be more aware of your thoughts and some techniques to help you ground.

This is more of a practice and less of something to do when you're having a ton of racing thoughts.

https://youtu.be/PnzVzfQXq_s?feature=shared

And this is a body scan, you can use this to help your body relax and your mind to be aware of your body instead of your thoughts. It would be helpful to try to fall asleep to it. And if you can't fall asleep at least to relax and get more rest.

https://youtu.be/MKClq7FHExc?feature=shared

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

I've been there and it's rough. The worst thing you can do is stay in bed and give in to the cycle of negativity, which will only make things worse. Try to get outside and spend time with friends and family as much as possible, even when you don't feel like it. Exercise can seem like the last thing you want to do, but it does help boost your endorphins and feel more positive.

I also had good results with using techniques Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which helps to assess negative thoughts and control them to a certain degree.

And if you need something stronger, speak to a medical professional. There are medications that can help.

Stay strong and don't give up.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago

Rigorous exercise might help. Just being able to vent some of those bottled-up frustrations while pumping your body will help process them a little bit. It'll also physically tire you to potentially make sleeping a little bit easier.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago

That sucks. Personally, exercise is essential for me. Also, I would consider an ebike. I've been doing it for about a year, 30mi round trip for work. Even through most of a Michigan winter. Really trying to never have to deal with a car again. Recently got a mototcycle for those real long trips. Best of luck

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago

well, maybe then do non-IT for a while

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 months ago

This week I want you to pick a fight with 3 people. Take a shitty job while you are waiting for your big break superstar and get a delta 9 disposable.