The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Zealousideal-Cat-488 on 2024-05-16 11:55:28.
I (21F) have just recently got an apartment with my best friend (22F) It’s an hour away from my family and an hour and a half away from my boyfriend (23M) of 3 almost 4 years. My best friend doesn’t like my boyfriend due to past issues in our relationship that we have resolved and moved past (context for people asking, he had issues with cheating in our first year of dating, no verbal or physical abuse) but she hasn’t, because of that she doesn’t want me to ever have my boyfriend over at our apartment it seems. The first night moving in I was gonna be here in a new city by myself due to her working a few more days in our past town which is fine, but she got upset because I invited my boyfriend to stay the night so I wasn’t alone my first night in my new apartment. I made sure by the time she was coming he had came and went but she still was upset about it telling me she’s not comfortable with him being here. Another night I had gone to his house for the day by bus bc that’s my main source of transportation but he drove me home late that night and we got back to my apartment around 9pm, I had told her I was gonna have him sleep over because he wouldn’t have made it home until at least 10:30pm and he would leave with me first thing in the morning when I work at 7am, as soon as we come in the door she asks me to come in her room leaving her door open and saying loudly how she doesn’t want him here, i reiterate it’ll only be until I leave in the morning and head off to my room for the night. I felt bad for my boyfriend because he heard everything she had said and felt bad about being there but I reassured him it’s okay and I pay for my room so I should at least be able to have a guest in there if I so please. This last weekend I decided to go to his house to visit so it wouldn’t be an issue of him coming over and her being uncomfortable, she now has a problem with the fact that I’m out of town on the weekends because she says she’s bored and lonely when I’m not around, and I feel bad she’s lonely but she’s making it so hard to be able to maintain space for my relationship and for her as my best friend, am I the asshole because I feel if I pay half (if not more bc she owes me money due to being short during the move in process) that I should be able to have my boyfriend over at least one night a week?