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“My Brother Is So Far Gone”: How Male Influencers Turned The Men In These People’s Lives Toxic
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I do think there is an attack on masculinity that is going unaddressed and this is a huge issue that if that was solved issues like this wouldn't arrise.
If you ever speak about it, it just goes the old "you're a man you have life on easy don't you know how hard it is to be X" or "that's not the way the world is any more you are stuck in the 40's" or " you need to be thinking about X and how men make them feel and you need to do better even though you haven't done anything wrong you're responsible."
Boys and men want some shithousary, they want some aggression and they want to be tough. But they don't get the support in a lot of ways I did even a few years ago.
Guys don't want to be weak and breakdown and cry and talk about their feelings, they want to be part of a group that supports each other and helps each other grow and be tougher. But when guys are wrestling and calling each other cunts or whatever that isn't healthy, they should be asking each other about their emotions and what not. I'm just convinced men aren't built like that and building the world away from the old systems isn't good for men.
They need a group where they can go and relax and shithouse. Things like scouts, full contract sport, boys groups, mens groups in the pub. That does more for my mental health and most guys mental health than any of the stuff being pushed now. What we need to push is society is community and I think men need that more than they need anything else, just look at loneliness levels. Secondly it's probably purpose, being seen as tough and a provider.
That's what men crave and there is such a severe lack of that community that it is taken from twats like Tate because there is no other option.
Stop talking with the voices in your head. It helps a lot.
I'm a man and I'm build like that. How about not making generalizations about like half the population of earth. Some men want do MMA, some do want talk about feelings and some might even want to do both. There is no one size fit them all approach to masculinity. And it was never about, making traditional manly man any less manly. It is about realizing that we are all different and no-one is less human or men because we don't fit in some box.
Holy shit. Nail on the head. To the OP, I hope that's not so harsh you don't hear the message. You are rather ill-informed on what is acceptable human behavior, and what is that old toxic masculinity that us humans are trying to get rid of. You are absolutely fine hanging out with buddies and doing guy stuff. "Clubs" have been on a downward tend since the mid 20th century, and it's not feminism that did that. It's just that people are less and less interested in joining them and committing time. They all struggle with membership (yes, I belong to one).
There's also the possibility that if you don't have guys to hang out with, it might be that your idea of "shithouse" is just being shitty. I've spent plenty of time in locker rooms -and that kind of behavior gets on peoples nerves as you get older. That's not an attack on masculinity.