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I've been on HRT for 3 years, and I really have lost all hope that I will ever look like a girl or be gendered correctly or even just be treated with dignity. I'm really ugly and honestly I can tell, people lie and say well it's your personality that matters. It's really not that hard to see, and I am wondering if there is a point to spending 120 dollars a month, just for peace of mind.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (7 children)

wtf you definitely pass (tbh I'm a bit impressed)
yeah you should probably work on your appearance (like in general, foe example maybe eyebrows?) but you definitely do not look masculine.

(also is it ok to comment here if I'm not trans? this community just pops up every now and then on my feed)

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (3 children)

I've never been told this by a random person in public

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Okay, I'm sorry, I don't want to come across as being harassing, I came back to check on the post and see what other insights people offered. But I had to write a reply to this.

You do realise that it would be impossible for a random person in public to tell you that you pass right? People don't just walk up to cis women and compliment them on passing as a woman. The only reason the person you're replying too can is because of the context of being in a trans community...

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

No your not coming across as harassing sorry, I was meaning that I haven't been gendered as a women by random people in public I interact with

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago

voice training, posture, general attire, makeup etc also all contribute. my mother has consistently been misgendered throughout her life as a cis woman because she doesn't wear makeup, has a particular posture from working out/physical labor, and wears like jeans and masc-cut t-shirts. all of these things can be changed and posture nor voice training require you have money if you already have internet access.

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