My inability to quickly come up with responses in a conversation which causes those conversations to die from nobody saying anything which in turn makes making friends hard.
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Very high libido.
Unless you are using it like an addiction, you just need a good match. This will be an asset to the right partner. Good luck to you.
Thanks. This is the mother of my two children and the woman I intend to be with for the rest of my life. We have a very open conversation about it and are working on it. Currently on the same page and on the right track. 😊
Thanks for your words! ❤️
PS: not an addiction, thankfully!
Good, that is good. If your kids are small, it may keep getting better - I run pretty hot, once a day lady at least and nursing kids knocked my libido down below zero. It was unsettling. The combination of stress and hormones (and coming after the high of pregnancy sex drive) was so depressing, sex was scary and uncomfortable just awful time. It does pass but feels like it won't.
Sorry probably TMI but if you can stay connected and especially if this is a change she has gone through it will come around. Little kids are such an enormous stressful job but they do grow.
No no, not TMI. Thank you for sharing, every bit of info that helps us understand the situation is helpful.
Stress is definitely a big factor in our case. Lots of stressful circumstances. But intimacy for me is a stress reliever, whereas it seems like the opposite to her. So that's been a big issue for a while.
I've lurked a lot in r/deadbedrooms in the past year. A lot of advice there can sometimes make you lose hope. "Just leave him/her. You're not compatible." I've not posted there myself, and probably for the best. But it has been somewhat insightful.
It has come to a head for me a few times in the past year, where I've broken down and told her intimacy has to escalate soon. We need to do something here. I need to know what she wants and she needs to know what I want so we can rebuild and increase the intimacy frequency and quality.
So we have sort of a plan now and it's working pretty well so far. Wheels are turning. I just hope we can stay the course.
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Shy bladder syndrome - I can only take go on a toilet and do my business at my own home while no one else is nearby, and this makes it very hard whenever I get hospitalized, have to stay somewhere overnight (thankfully never happened), or being in school/work as I can never use the toilet once the need arises - gotta wait until I'm back home for that.
The worst it had affected me was at a hospital once where it took me around 2-3 days to be able to finally start urinating there after countless attempts over the time period, and 2 weeks to be able to take a shit. It's no fun.
Never serious.
Mostly everything.
Jesus, fucking everything.
I am so much smarter than the whole bunch, and they just can't stand it
:-)